I’ve been thinking a lot about blame recently.
I think we blame when we want a quick answer rather than holding ourselves or an individual solely responsible for their actions. It’s harder to entertain the fact that we as a species are a complex ball of contradictions. Maybe human nature is not straightforward and cut and dry. Perhaps we may never have an answer that is purely right or wrong and completely explains a person’s motivations, whether their acts are good or bad.
But you see, that would take time and require us to regularly challenge what we’ve decided for ourselves is truth. That is scary, to have to believe that there are no absolutes. So we find answers to the shameful things the best way we know how: we blame. Someone has to be culpable and guilty. It’s someone else’s fault. It’s a culture’s fault. It’s a religion’s fault. It’s the parents’ fault. It’s everyone else’s fault but mine. Now, content in the fact that we are certain of where the blame lies, the argument ends there for most.
But on some level, I think we all know that it doesn’t end there. When senselessness challenges our most solid beliefs and our faith is shaken down to the core, we realize that it’s not that simple. Unfortunately, that often takes great or personal tragedy for us to come to that realization.
And until we do, we keep playing the blame game.
This rant aside, here’s a single lyric to a song that I’m positive will be the next to write itself (because I don’t write songs, I’m simply an instrument they use to write themselves. These words and experiences are never my own… And I’m not crazy).
It just got me thinking about blame so I thought I would toss my thoughts out there, failing a complete song… Hope you enjoy it none the less:
Maybe opening up was a bit of a mistake
But where do you go when your head’s not a safe space?
And the biggest danger comes from within?
It was easy to get lost and forget for a moment
But how dare you accuse me, and say I should have toned it
When you’re complicit in this sin?